Stoa Digest #49: 🏟Life throws you curveballs.
You've just got to learn to be the batter.
This week’s Editorial is by another one of our alum from Cohort 4! We have a feeling a few of you might resonate with it, so if you do, you know what to do!
Hint: Reach out to them on Discord & have a chat!
✍🏼 Fellow Editorial ✍🏼
Shifting to a new city! How’s it feel?
Embrace is a word that I have heard for a long time, and thought I knew the meaning of; until last month, when I had to move my whole life to Hyderabad.
Before going on & telling you about the experience of moving to a new city, you should also know I’m a defence kid, I’ve stayed in multiple cities for the last 25 years of my life.
Shifting cities comes naturally, and yet is an entirely new experience every time.
This time it was different than before though, because this time I left my friends and family behind. It was too heavy on my heart, despite knowing that I will finally have all the freedom i’ve wanted in my life. (The key question being - ‘Do I really want it?’)
Through making this big life-change though, one thing I’ve felt is that I'm not the only one going through this change alone, because there have been so many people that have moved recently, so I thought that there might be something you resonate with too.
Here are a couple of the thoughts I’ve had about moving -
Moving to a new city feels like a huge change in one’s life. Remember the time when you moved from school to school or school to college? Exactly!
I’m going through all those same feelings right now.
They encompass some of our best times, but also come with a generous dose of some of the worst too.
Something which I underestimated missing, was my friends & compatriots, who were earlier only a couple of mins away, and presently are in an entirely different city.
They were right when they said ‘Home is where the heart is’, and right now my heart hasnt found a home in this new city yet. But I know it’ll take time, and I’m bracing for that.
With this feeling of missing close ones, you start questioning the meaning of life. The meta questions in the middle of the night - they make you clench your fist and want to go running back, at the first hint of change. At this moment, the other part of you says —
“Everything is going to be alright. Focus on what we have today, rather than what we don’t.“
There are two feelings which might make things worse — ‘Fear’ and ‘Stuck’.
Do not expect anything to happen at the doorstep of your house. You have to wear your best attire, show up to socialise at events, and find your people. I understand, that it’s an exhausting process but this is what one needs to do. Let people love you and welcome you in the way they/you want. Be cautious at the same time. Remember you are your own best friend.
“Lover of ‘unknown concepts”
Moving to a new city will make you feel better.
It’s all about understanding the integrities of every small thing you visit, watch, see, and hear. Currently, I’m craving Delhi’s momos and I know I won’t be able to have the right taste in the city i’m in currently i.e. Hyderabad. ( I know the food here is great, but if you know, you know)
Cultural shock will happen to you. As we live in a world of immense diversity, we feel this shock. Let it happen to you. It will make you feel grateful for what you have at home and with your own swag, you will start enjoying this different culture, too. It will open you to a new perspective towards old things, in a way you didn’t even imagine.
“Taking a leap of faith is what we need”.
You just don’t take a leap of faith to move your home from one city to another. But also with every day, you wake up in the morning to visit everyone until you doze off.
The feeling of unfamiliarity will make you feel uncomfortable, and with time it’s going to get better.
”Trust the process.”
The World isn’t only about the people at the top.
Talk to folks at the very beginning level of your new companies, those you meet in the pantry, those at security, and every other you dare to.
These are the people will give you the warmth you crave, that it will start making your day. Every individual is important in the larger scheme of life.
Love has its way to return back to you.
You might feel you aren’t feeling loved or at home, and this might make you restless, but trust yourself. Things will become easier soon. Take a break to explore the city, even if you don’t have anyone around.
Learn to love yourself.
Explore the nooks of the city.
You only love someone you know in and out, maybe let’s try this with the city too! It might bring the best people into your life, or find you the best corner of the city.
Wear your slippers and move out meri Jaan :). Be a tourist in your own (new) city.
Who says it’s going to be easy. It’s got the potential to be the toughest thing you will go through in your 20s. Things might fall apart, yet the universe has given you so much strength, that it will give you the strength to rebuild it, and stronger, too.
It’s a terrifiying thing to say, but this might be what you need now.
Allow yourself to open your life in new ways, and you might be pleasantly surprised. The world is a beautiful place to live in.
This new chapter of life may seem daunting but who knows it could be one of the best gifts you will ever receive in your life. Any change is threatening, just stay in touch with your loved ones and yourself, and trust me you will get through.
To end with, here’s a quote I’ve found myself going back to often!
“Awaken your spirit to adventure;
Hold nothing back, learn to find ease in risk;
Soon you will be home in a new rhythm,
For your soul senses the world that awaits you.”
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You know that one of the game-changing bits about Stoa is Case Weekends. It’s rare to find a single weekend change your viewpoint that much. Not only that, but you also learn so much in them, lessons that cannot be translated into any other format, apart from experiencing them.
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Happy Birthday to Akshaya D N and Sai Sanatan
UPCOMING BIRTHDAYS THIS WEEK
24th May - Ambuj Saxena, Ashmina Akbar
26th May - Ankit Dev, Shraddha Rathi
27th May - Juhith Gadepalli
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If you know anything about football, you know that there were a LOT of opinions all across the board about Manchester City winning the Premier League.
And as all things go, of course we have a Fantasy Premier League division within Stoa!
This year’s winner, just like last year, was Ayush Thakrar!
Shoutout to the Top 10 though who were:
Number 2: Manoj Kambadur, Number 3: Abhay Sharma, Number 4: Ramasamy R, Number 5: Jacob Rohan, Number 6: Bijit Deka, Number 7: Hrishi Wadki, Number 8: Archit Varshney, Number 9: Rahil Taneja, Number 10: Kartiik Sachdeva
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🥲 Meme Wars 🥲
This week’s shiny new winner of Best Meme goes to …………
Jagadeash S, but we have to also give the OG Saxena Saheb a shoutout here, for starting a whole Stoa trend that no real other cohort has come close to do better than they did.
Going to end this one with a 👋🏼 because, it’s got a bit long!